The more I read from this lady, the more I like her. In Maggie Gallagher's most recent column, she notes this from Child Trends: "Research clearly demonstrates that family structure matters for children, and the family structure that helps the most is a family headed by two-biological parents in a low-conflict marriage. Children in single-parent families, children born to unmarried mothers, and children in stepfamilies or cohabiting relationships face higher risks of poor outcomes. ... There is thus value for children in promoting strong, stable marriages between biological parents." But you already knew that.
[Via Summa Mamas]
having grown up in a single parent household i can tell you it sucks on so many levels and for so many reasons. . .but as you say, people already know that. so why are there so many selfish reprobates out there who refuse to work to end ... oh wait, i just answered my own question! they're selfish reprobates.
ps- thanks for the mention.
I have to tell you, I am forever encouraging my single moms (patients) to consider marriage to their live-ins. I point out that marriage protects their children legally in ways that are not available any other way. I also ask the women - "If you love him enough to have sex with him, to have a baby with him, why would you not want to marry him? And if he doesn't love you enough to marry you and take full responsibility for his child, why are you having sex with him?" If nothing else, it makes them think. I recently had a young woman come in for her 4th baby with our practice. When I went into the room, I was expecting a stranger because I didn't recognize the name! SHe told me that she had finally married the FOB (father of baby(s)) and "He is like a different guy!" Different, how, I asked her. Her reply - "He is more responsible, he keeps a job even if he gets upset, he is just a better man all-around".
I see it - but even those who work in the same setting as me and with the same patients think I am nuts because of my views.
they probably don't really think you're nuts. living in the dark, they just don't understand your light.